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How to Help 69传媒 Handle Setbacks

Times of doubt can be an opportunity
By Angela Duckworth 鈥 October 05, 2022 2 min read
How do I help students handle setbacks?
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How do I help students handle setbacks?

Everyone hits rough patches鈥攖he question is what you do when you pick yourself back up. Here鈥檚 something I wrote about the topic for as a :

Setbacks discourage me.

There, I鈥檝e said it. I鈥檝e admitted that I, Angela Duckworth, scholar of grit and admirer of all things excellent, come up short on one of the original items I wrote for the .

But it鈥檚 true: I do get discouraged. I鈥檓 no stranger to doubt.

And yet eventually, I get up again. I fall seven and rise eight.

What is the psychology of being 鈥渁ll in鈥? Why is it that sometimes in life, we get discouraged, retreat, and then, as a result, see our prophecy of failure fulfilled? And other times, we get discouraged but eventually redouble our effort, thereby increasing the odds that we will succeed?

The difference between being all in versus anything else comes down to whether or not you鈥檝e crossed the Rubicon.

This is the that psychologist Peter Gollwitzer uses to explain the difference between deliberating about what to do and resolving that yes, this is exactly what you want to do. On one side of the river, you鈥檝e got options. On the other, you鈥檙e committed.

As you may know, the Rubicon is the river Julius Caesar crossed in 49 B.C.E. against direct orders from the Roman Senate not to do so. Crossing the river was a decision that, as an unambiguous act of treason, could not be reversed.

Being all in means you鈥檙e fully committed to your goal. You鈥檙e no longer weighing the pros and cons of your dreams. Instead, you鈥檙e figuring out how to make them a reality. In an all-in frame of mind, setbacks鈥攈owever painful and discouraging they may be, particularly in the moment鈥攁re reframed as lessons learned.

My guess about paragons of grit is that, like anyone else, they once wondered to themselves, Can I do this? Why should I do this? Why shouldn鈥檛 I? 贰惫别谤测辞苍别鈥攊苍肠濒耻诲颈苍驳 and and 鈥攎ust have questioned, at some point in their journeys, whether they were aiming too high or even pointing in the wrong direction altogether.

But one day they crossed the Rubicon. Afterward, they asked, How can I do this? When and where can I take action? Why isn鈥檛 what I鈥檓 doing working and what do I need to do differently?

A few years ago, I sat down and reviewed the Grit Scale items. I reread everything, thought carefully, and changed only one.

Everyone gets discouraged. Everyone cries, sometimes. But some of us cross the Rubicon. When we do, we can say without reservation: .

顿辞苍鈥檛 think that gritty people never feel discouraged.

Do use times of doubt as an opportunity to consider what you truly want and believe. And help young people to consider, on the banks of the Rubicon, what their next step will be.

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